We’ve been struggling financially for several years now. We’re small business owners and am a full time homeschooling mother of 3. My husband is working countless hours trying to grow our business as well as juggling several other sources of income. We’re on food stamps, affording our mortgage gets very tight some months and we haven’t been able to begin paying back my in-laws for money they have lent us. My husband is always saying that the business is growing and we’re making progress and things are working and he’s always trying to be positive. But today I felt very overwhelmed and overstimulated and tired of this constant struggle. I voice to him pretty bluntly the reality of our situation, which is what I stated above. Unfortunately my words absolutely deflated my husband. I feel strongly convicted that as his partner and wife, I know I need to encourage an uplift him and although everything I said is true, I feel terrible for deflating his spirit and making him feel bad. What I said was not received well and I truly feel terrible and I don’t know if I’m wrong or if I’m not.
Marriage and communication struggles
Your Reflection
TFJ's Insight
Insight/Reflection: It is understandable that in times of financial struggle and stress, communication can become strained. It’s important to remember to approach conversations with love and understanding, even when voicing concerns. Remember that we are called to uplift and encourage our partners, even in difficult times.
Verse to Memorize: Philippians 4:13 – “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”
Application: This verse reminds us that with God’s strength, we can face any challenge, including financial struggles. Trust in Him to provide for your needs and give you the strength to support and uplift your husband in times of difficulty.
Verse to Uphold: Proverbs 15:1 – “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”
Application: It’s important to communicate with kindness and gentleness, even when discussing difficult topics. Approach conversations with a loving and understanding heart, seeking to build each other up, rather than tear each other down.
Verse to Seek: Ephesians 4:32 – “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”
Application: Remember to show kindness and compassion towards your husband, understanding that everyone has their own struggles and burdens to bear. Offer forgiveness and grace, just as Christ has forgiven us.
Prayer: Dear Heavenly Father, I lift up this couple to you in their time of financial struggle and communication difficulties. Grant them strength, wisdom, and understanding as they navigate this challenging season. Help them to communicate with love and compassion, uplifting each other in times of need. May they find peace in knowing that with You, all things are possible. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
